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It was never a choice.

We’ve all heard people say that being gay is a lifestyle choice.  I know that some people sincerely believe this and I don’t fault them for their ignorance because they never walked in my shoes.  I, on the other hand, have walked in their shoes because I had to live and be someone else for a period in my life.  Being gay, openly, was not done in some places with any level of tolerance and you were best to keep your private life to yourself.

I’m not going to go into a bunch of details but I want to just relate some experience as casually as possible without offending people with too many details.  So that being said let me give you a bit of background.

Before I was a teenager I had already had little experiences as a kid does growing up.  It doesn’t happen to everyone but it does happen to quite a few kids growing up where sexual encounters, innocent as they are in most cases, do happen with younger kids.  Even before they’re teens.  It’s human nature.  We are all part of the animal kingdom and like it or not, some things are built in.  They’re instinct.

I don’t dwell upon the memories and as I’m writing this it’s literally been decades the last time I even thought about my childhood and the events that stand out relating to intimate encounters.  I just know that I had encounters with some boys and some girls like most kids have growing up.  Most of us can relate to these things.  We don’t like to talk about it but with as many stories and as many people as I’ve met and talked to over the decades since I’ve been online, one thing I am certain of is that I’m as normal as anyone else and gay or straight a great many of us share the same types of experiences to varying degrees.

I never made a choice to be gay.  I don’t know a single friend of mine that I can ever say has made a choice to be bisexual.  Not one that made a choice to be straight.  Not one person have I known my entire life that I’ve asked has ever offered an answer defining why they are who they are when it comes to their attractions.  We don’t make a choice about that.  Whatever combination of events or genetics or whatever it might be, not a single person can say they made a choice because we all just are who we are and like it or not we have to accept that at some point or struggle our whole lives being something and someone that we’re not.

When I was growing up violence towards gay people wasn’t uncommon.  We heard about kids in school that were supposedly gay and they were treated with contempt and outright hatred.  They were outcasts.  I knew one such boy and we were never really friends but we knew one another.  As a matter of fact he was the very first person I ever had intimate contact with and it ended up being something that happened once and then not again for nearly a decade when we encountered one another again.  But that experience with him made me understand who I was and it scared the crap out of me at the time.

Many younger people that might read this will never be able to truly relate to what I and those my age went through in many cases.  You get to live your lives out in the open with society relatively protective over your rights to be unharmed in schools and laws being passed that make it truly scary to commit crimes against you.

Most of you will never know what it means to be scared to be out because a deadly gay disease is killing your kind.  That God supposedly was sending a disease to wipe you off the face of the planet.  That’s what we were told and that is what some of us truly believed.  So if God didn’t curse us with a disease someone was liable to beat us and leave us to die in the streets or on a country road somewhere.

I struggled trying to be someone I wasn’t for a long time.  I had several girlfriends but unknown to them I had secret hookups with other guys as well.  I longed for it, it was where I was happy.  I knew who I was attracted to but I never defined that, it just was what it was and I had no reason to believe otherwise.  Still, I was scared and lived in a constant state of denial.  I lied to a girl I sincerely love, still to this day.  Her first daughter has my last name and we’re still after all these years the very best of friends.  But I lied to her and I nearly married her too.  But I wasn’t happy.  I wasn’t who I was meant to be.

So if you think I made a choice to be gay, I’d simply ask you..  Why did you choose to be straight?  Why did you choose to be bisexual?  You can’t sincerely tell me that you made that choice.  If you say you can I say you’re lying to yourself.

 

22 times Trump Supported gay rights!

This was provided for us to share via Twitter @GaysForTrumpUSA

Their official website:  https://gaysfortrump.org/

Sources at the bottom.

1. In the State of the Union Address on February 5, 2019, President Donald J. Trump announced his Administration’s goal to end the HIV epidemic in the United States within 10 years. Bold actions that benefited the LGBT community. The Administration and Congress have approved additional resources to begin this multiyear initiative focused on ending the HIV epidemic in America by 2030.

2. Trump, in his address to world leaders, said: “We stand in solidarity with LGBTQ people who live in countries that punish, jail or execute individuals based upon sexual orientation.” This came about after Iranian regime has put a gay man to death with the usual outrageous claims of prostitution, kidnapping, or even pedophilia. And it sadly won’t be the last time,” R. Grenell

3. Picking Richard Grinnell in 2017 as ambassador to Germany. Highest openly gay government official appointed by Trump.

4. Trump was the First republican president to congratulate and note gay pride month (3rd in history).

5. Kept the executive order which created federal workplace protections for LGBT people. The[White House stated, “President Trump continues to be respectful and supportive of L.G.B.T.Q. rights, just as he was throughout the election,” the statement said. “The president is proud to have been the first ever G.O.P. nominee to mention the L.G.B.T.Q. community in his nomination acceptance speech, pledging then to protect the community from violence and oppression.”

6. 2019 Mary Rowland who is open lesbian as a judge on the US district court in northern Illinois. Making her the first openly LGBT Judicial nominee under the Trump presidency

7. Trump nominated Patrick Bumatay an openly gay man in the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals. Who was denied by Democrats.

8. On February 10, 2020, the White House released President Donald Trump’s Fiscal Year 2021 Federal Budget proposal. The FY2021 Budget includes $716 million for the second year of the multiyear ending the HIV Epidemic: A Plan for America (EHE) initiative to eliminate HIV in America. The FY2021 Budget proposal includes:

-$371 million for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) to reduce new HIV infections;

-$302 million for Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) to deliver HIV care through the Ryan White HIV/AIDS Program (RWHAP) and to supply testing, evaluation, prescription of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), and associated medical costs through the Health Centers program;

-$27 million to the Indian Health Service (IHS) to tackle the epidemic in American Indian and Alaska Native communities; and

-$10 million for the National Institutes of Health (NIH) for evaluation activities to identify effective interventions to treat and prevent HIV.

9. Trump wants to make pre-exposure prophylactics (PREP) free for those who are uninsured greatly helping his HIV reduction goals in the next ten years.

10. Brandon Straka openly gay man convert into a TRUMP loving gay American. He created the #walkaway campaign that hundreds of thousands have left the corrupt Democratic party and joined Trump in his pursuit to Make America Great Again.

11. Trump gave the order to neutralized Iranian terrorist Qasem Soleimani who was responsible for the GENOCIDE of over 1500 gay Iranians

12. In November of 2016 Trump is the first president in history to support gay marriage at the time before his election. This was during a 60 Minutes interview.

13. Openly gay Randy William Berry served as the first special envoy for human and LGBT rights. Nominated by Donald Trump as the US Ambassador of Nepal in May 2018

14. Openly gay Robert Gilchrist ambassador of Lithuania. Nominated by Trump

15. Eric George Nelson openly gay ambassador of Bosnia Nominated by Trump

16. Jeff Daigle of Cabo Verde openly gay ambassador. Nominated by Trump

17. Trump stated that he would have no problems voting for a GAY president Trump stated that he would support Pete Buttigieg as an openly gay President

18. Richard Grinnell now appointed by Trump as the director of the intelligence committee. The first openly gay Cabinet Member in history.

19. Trump administration eases ban on blood donations for LGBTs

20. The Trump administration is curbing intelligence sharing operations with allied countries that criminalize homosexuality, a move that would expand on the administration’s 2019 plan to push nearly 70 countries to end the practice of killing, arresting, or punishing homosexuality.

21. Trump gave Grenell the first openly gay cabinet member his chair which is not commonly done – why Trump said “you are the first openly gay secretary and it is a big deal!”

22. Republican Justice Neil M. Gorsuch, (appointed by Trump) pointed out that the Civil Rights Act of 1964 adopted broad language that prohibits private companies from discriminating against employees on the basis of “sex,” seen at the time as a historic step for women’s rights. Justice Brett M. Kavanaugh (appointed by Trump),in a dissent that argues that it was Congress’ role to “amend” Title VII to include LGBT employees under the protections, nonetheless noted the historic nature of the decision. “Millions of gay and lesbian Americans have worked hard for many decades to achieve equal treatment in fact and in law,” Kavanaugh wrote.
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1. https://hiv.gov/federal-response/ending-the-hiv-epidemic/overview
2. https://nbcnews.com/politics/national-security/trump-administration-launches-global-effort-end-criminalization-homosexuality-n973081
3. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Grenell
4. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_pride
5. https://nytimes.com/2017/01/30/us/politics/obama-trump-protections-lgbt-workers.html
6. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_M._Rowland
7. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patrick_J._Bumatay
8. https://hiv.gov/federal-response/ending-the-hiv-epidemic/funding
9. https://statnews.com/2019/12/03/trump-administration-will-provide-hiv-prevention-drug-for-free-to-uninsured-in-new-program/
10. https://walkawaycampaign.com
11. https://unitedagainstnucleariran.com/persecution-of-lgbt-iranians
12. https://cbsnews.com/news/trump-promises-pro-life-justices-supreme-court-same-sex-marriage/
13. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Randy_W._Berry
14. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_S._Gilchrist
15. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_George_Nelson
16. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeff_Daigle
17. https://bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-51506972
18. https://wsj.com/articles/trump-expected-to-name-richard-grenell-to-top-intelligence-post-11582157309
19. https://nydailynews.com/coronavirus/ny-coronavirus-trump-gay-men-blood-hesitation-20200402-lv4keor74ndbjd5qfwhff7ga3i-story.html
20. https://nytimes.com/2020/04/22/us/politics/intelligence-sharing-lgbt-laws.html
21. https://thehill.com/homenews/administration/500788-trump-gives-grenell-his-cabinet-chair-after-he-steps-down
22. https://rollcall.com/2020/06/15/15lgbt/

The pendulum swings.

For decades now I have watched as events have taken place that affect the LGBT community in both positive and negative ways and to say the least it’s disturbing to watch the way things will swing back and forth to such extremes.

Christians are the main target because of the same style of militant and overly aggressive behavior that the gay community often demonstrates can also be seen by those of so called faith.  Christians often attempt to assert that this nation is a Christian nation and therefore their ideals should be made into law all the while forgetting that we’re a Constitutional Republic that is not at all a Christian nation but rather a nation of common sense laws.

There are a number of quotes that establish the fact that our founding fathers looked at faith as a double edge sword.  No quote more powerful, I think, than that of George Washington.  He said “If I could conceive that the general government might ever be so administered as to render the liberty of conscience insecure, I beg you will be persuaded, that no one would be more zealous than myself to establish effectual barriers against the horrors of spiritual tyranny, and every species of religious persecution.” in a letter to the United Baptist Chamber of Virginia, May 1789.

The United States Constitution establishes equality under the law for all.  Christians have long argued against equal rights for the gay community such as marriage but I would submit that if they argue about the definition they are in fact arguing for a separate outcome and rights which is not how our Constitution was written.

Christians also seem to be under the belief that marriage is a religious foundation rooted in procreation which is also a lie.  Long before Christianity came to be, families would marry individuals that in some cases one person was alive while the other was dead.  All to create stronger alliances between families.  It’s a historical fact, whether Christians like it or not.

So every time the gay community has a win, Christians strike back and find new ways to attack the gay community and every time Christians have a win, the gay community seems to escalate their fight and strike back as well.  It’s a never ending cycle and it’s been going on all my life.

I have no problem with people that have a religious faith.  I’m quite happy for them.  I myself believe that there is in fact a God but as I’ve educated myself over the years I am 100% certain that there isn’t a single religion on the face of this planet that is right. God is about something much greater than mortals can imagine.  There has to be something on a higher level at work to have created the vast universe we live in and I certainly am not arrogant enough to believe that this planet is the only place where there is intelligent life.

So how did something come of nothing and who or what predates all of us that had a hand in all of creation?  I don’t know but I do know that Christians, Muslims, Jews, and every other faith is 100% wrong.  They can cite their scriptures all they like but they cannot escape a simple truth of humanity.  People lie, have motives, seek power and control.  People are dishonest and corrupt.  History proves that clearly and no religious faith can say they don’t have blood on their hands and claim to be righteous because the murder of a single soul in the name of your faith taints everything and everyone involved for all time.

I’m happy for those who find comfort in their faith but their faith belongs in only two places.  In your home and in your places of worship.  Outside of that your faith has no place in government.  It has no place being pushed upon others.  It has no place in books of law to be imposed upon society.  Your faith is limited by the Constitution because let’s be clear.  Freedom of religion also means freedom from religion.  You have a right to believe what you like, I have a right to believe you’re full of it and believe something completely different.  Simple as that.

The gay community must stop pushing itself upon people.  There must be limits to what society has to endure from people of faith and the LGBT community alike.  I don’t want religious rule but I certainly don’t want a rule of law operated by a hateful and militant gay community that continues to attempt to impose itself upon those that have spiritual beliefs.

Oh and I’d be perfectly fine with the gay community leveling it’s attacks on religious folks if it weren’t for the fact that they only seem to go after Christians.  When the community goes after Muslims and others with equal aggression, then we can have a conversation.  Gay people looking for a fight with Christians needs to stop.  It’s absurd, abusive, and just plain childish.  Just take note how you’ve never seen a news story where gay couples are looking for a wedding cake from a Muslim operates bakery.  When that happens, let’s see how well that goes over.